COPING WITH GRIEF IN THE TIME OF COVID-19
"Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss because it is a reflection of what we love it can feel all-encompassing."
Grief, as we know today from psychological research is not a single emotion but a process, a series of stages that follow one another.
Grief is the acute pain that accompanies loss because it is a reflection of what we love it can feel all-encompassing.
Grief is not limited to the loss of people, but when it follows the loss of a loved one, it may be compounded by feelings of guilt and confusion, especially if the relationship was a difficult one.
Almost everyone knows someone who has died or passed away in their innermost circle of friends or relatives.
Covid has opened the grieving process in us, like a Pandora’s Box, and at a scale creating a vulnerability destroying some of our most cherished assumptions and beliefs of who we are our inner sense of safety.
Today, it would not be an exaggeration to say we are a society in grief.
It is everywhere, touching every home, every conversation.
It overwhelms us through pictures, through the talk of the death of someone who passed away without warning and without enough care.
We as a society may be said to be going through a collective grieving process, frozen and tense.
Covid has altered that forever.
The horrors of death now face us, confronting us in a way that we’re never prepared for.
Mankind may be said to be frozen in time trying to understand how to rise above the present issue.
There is a sense of de-realization, of Deja-vu, as if all this is a dream, unreal, and would somehow vanish like a miracle when we wake up the next morning.
Because grief obeys its own trajectory, there is no timetable for feelings of pain after loss nor is it possible to avoid suffering altogether.
In fact, attempts to suppress or deny grief are just likely to prolong the process, while also demanding additional emotional effort.
For some people, grief is a short-term phenomenon, also known as acute grief, although the pain may return unexpectedly at a later time.
But other individuals may experience prolonged grief, lasting months or years.
Without help and support, such grief can lead to isolation and chronic loneliness.
Because grief is experienced in many ways, experts suggest that those who would support a friend or loved one in a time of grieving follow that person’s lead, and resist judging whether they seem to be insufficiently sad or to be dwelling in grief for too long.
Offering practical help and an acknowledgment of a loss are both positive actions.
Many mourners want those around and listen, ask questions, and share memories, thereby confirming the depth and validity of the griever’s feelings and helping them to heal.
Many people expect to experience denial, anger, bargaining, depression, and acceptance all of us go through these stages when faced with a loss of a loved one.
While some of us are able to find support and move on, many in the present times are unable to do so being caught up in the vortex of modernity, the digital world that interferes with the grieving process.
Long after the pandemic will be over, Covid will be remembered as a period in our history that taught us once again not to run away from this deepest predicament but come to terms with it.